What Is The Difference When Dating a Black Guy Compared to a White Guy

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If you have a desire to try your hand in interracial dating, but somewhere deep down inside, you may be more insecure than you realized. The fear of the unknown can be crippling in the dating game, especially where interracial relationships are concerned. Your concerns may be deeper than even you are truly aware of. If this is the case, there are some opinions, experiences, stereotypes, rumors, facts, and observations of both dating black men and dating white men. If you have done one but not the other, or even if you haven’t tried either and are curious, then read on to discover the differences we have highlighted between the two.

Transparent Racism

Some non-white women find it hard to believe that racism cannot be truly obsolete in a white man because the problem with discrimination runs too deep. This can play on their mind if they choose to date a white man. They find themselves wondering what will be said during an argument and fearing that it could well blow up into a racial slur-fest and do not want to be put in that position. This, of course, is very generalizing and judgemental, but it is a genuine concern that black women possess, which they would not necessarily have when dating a black man.

Meeting the Parents

To even get to this stage, you will both have already been out in public together and possibly experienced some of the negative vibes out there towards interracial couples. In any case, meeting your partner’s parents is often nerve-wracking enough without the stress of whether you will be accepted into the family because you have different colored skin. This is an applicable concern for whichever race is bringing their date home for the first time, be it black or white skin. So this is a tough one to separate as the situation plays out similarly, whichever way you look at it. The initial reaction, the follow-up, and the aftermath of the first meeting can be awkward and uncomfortable at the best of times, same ethnicity or not.

Media Portrayal

Now we come to our first stereotype. We can blame popular culture for this one. On TV, in the movies, and across global entertainment platforms, it is common to see or hear a feisty latino or an angry black woman as characters across the industry. The way non-white women are presented can be worrying if you are dating a white guy as the concern rises about intimidation. The truth is, there are just as many angry and feisty white women out there, but the concern for some non-white women is that a white man might not be able to handle them or be scared based on the image they have seen in the media. This again pushes her towards dating a black man over a white guy.

Size Matters

The most famous stereotype of them all, the rumor that no one dares to question and just assume it’s true. Of course, we are talking about male genitals size. Just to clarify, it is universally rumored for all white men to be averagely sized compared to black men, who apparently all have huge Johnsons. This naturally will be more important to some girls than others if they believe it to be true. In the real world, black guys sometimes have small sizes, and yes, certain white men are very well endowed. It’s a lottery, but those who follow the saying “there is no smoke without fire” in terms of the rumor-mill, may insist on a preference for a black man in bed and not want to risk any lower performance level with a white man. Finally, remember that the size isn’t much important when there’s something more magic between too than the shapes and forms. All in all, you have to warm up the oven before baking.

Final Thoughts

Ultimately, everyone has a type, but they also have the curiosity and the right to experiment and explore that curiosity from time to time. There are advantages and disadvantages of dating white men, just as there are pros and cons of dating black men. Everyone will treat you differently no matter what color of skin they have. Yes, there will be patterns and coincidences that fit certain stereotypes, but there will also be awful generalizations that couldn’t be further from the truth. Each person is unique in their own way; until you get to know them, it is almost impossible to judge them on other people of the same ethnicity or race previous behavior towards women.