Are you a non-white woman interested in going interracial? If so, you are in good company because mixed-race couples are being accepted and tolerated more and more as awareness and education against discrimination grow. Interracial dating is more popular than ever in modern society, and to match that, there are equal measures of assistance, help, and guidance on getting you started. If you have never dated a white man before, here are some things you need to know before you do, so you are as prepared as possible to make it a success!
How To Efficiently Date White Men and What To Be Aware Of
Don’t Be Shy. White men can be reserved and not outgoing to begin with. They are not naturally aggressive with women and may need bringing out of their shells to accomplish seeing their true personalities. It will be worth it, so make him feel at ease and comfortable in your company with solid eye contact and plenty of smiling during the initial conversations.
Be Aware Of: Dating white men who disengage from a conversation in rapid fashion, similarly, with the avoidance of eye contact or anyone who looks disinterested or away from you while you are talking. Alarm bells should be ringing straight away, and it is highly likely they could be married or at least in another relationship and aren’t devoting you enough attention.
His Friends Paint A Picture: Analyse Them! A white man with a diverse group of friends, peers, or colleagues is going to be positively interested in interracial dating. It shows that he does not discriminate amongst those with who he keeps the company, and therefore could be a suitable candidate for a mixed-race relationship. Watch closely to see how he interacts with his diverse group and see how at ease he is with each of them before making any decision. This will eventually show you what his nature is. It’s highly recommended to omit harmful relations, so take a step back and think another time if you notice any hypocrisy signs.
Be Aware Of: A white man who fetishizes black women. The idea of dating a beautiful black woman is appealing to some white men, but they refuse to get serious and revert back to type. This applies to all men, of course, but is particularly applicable when there is a contrast in the race as it emphasizes the differential and increases the fantasy for something more.
Typical Habits Of A White Guy You Might Not Be Aware Of
Hair Fascination and Intrigue
They will never get their head around your hair texture, style, color, or whatever, so if you know this from the start, you can build patience with it and eventually accept that they just won’t understand the hair thing.
They are not comfortable saying it, no matter if you’re dating or not. They don’t want to talk about it in detail but are always curious as to why some people use it as a term of endearment amongst friends or in songs etc. The best thing is, they will also expect you to have all the answers! Take the opportunity to educate them as best as you can without patronizing them. Their naivety could get them in trouble one day. If your explanation of the use of the term saves them from harm in the future, then it is worth persevering with this conversation when it inevitably arises.
Dating white guys can be interesting because, firstly, they don’t know how to describe you to other people. Instead of just saying you are tall, thin with dark hair, a great personality with stunning eyes, and a dark complexion (you wish!), they get tongue-tied in the hope of not saying the wrong thing. Instead of sticking to the basics and complimenting you, they get too caught up in ethnicity and accuracy by saying things like Black, African, Congolese, etc. Help them out and be clear about who you are and what it is appropriate to introduce you as. The second part is where the confidentiality heading comes into play. We say this because when a non-white girl is dating a white guy, she may as well be “dating” his friends too. They aren’t all as diverse and as educated as your man and need details on what it’s like, what is different, how does that work, and so on. Establish some ground rules about what can and cannot be shared what is to remain private between the two of you.